A Dad's loss...........

With fathers day on Sunday I have been thinking a lot about Mike!

Dads so often feel forgotten in the loss of their child. Most people realise the physical and emotional pain of the mother but feel that the father did not really "know" the baby. But the meeting of souls is not always connected with physical interaction.

Just as there are "Expectant Moms" there are "Expectant Dads". From the beginning, Dads adjust their lives to incorporate their new child. Emotional, mental, and financial considerations and changes are made. They have their special hopes, and dreams. The baby learns the tone of their voice and responds. The whole new direction their life would have taken, has been suddenly and completely destroyed.

Dads are the strong ones, the heroes for the Mom. They are the ones that had to be the rock through this terrible ordeal for the family. That's why Father's Day is especially hard.

They are bombarded by the wave of feelings that this occasion brings, but often can't express them because they feel that letting go emotionally is letting down their family.

Remember these special guys and remember this day is significant. Even if the Dad has no children with him physically, he still is a Dad. Dad's appreciate respect of boundaries, but you can say that you know today might be difficult. And you can refer to his baby that has passed. It validates his child's life.