I have been overwhelmed by the variation of people's reactions to miscarriage. Some talk about it openly, but many don't. I was surprised by the number of women who confided in me that they, too, had lost a baby. I had had no idea. For many years, it was just not talked about. It was kept secret, as if someone had done something wrong, or as if, by not speaking of it, the loss would somehow be less. These women suffer alone. Maybe it's because you don't get to see your child's face or hear his cry, never know her touch--often you do not even know it if was a boy or a girl. Most often, this child goes without a name, without recognition. You are expected to "get over it and move on". Your tears fall in private.

In the months that follow a miscarriage, many women suffer from depression, but often it is not dealt with openly. Depression is looked upon as weakness, a lack of faith. What these women may not realize is that depression is a very natural occurrence after a loss like this. The body's hormonal balance is thrown out of whack, and the depression is a result of this hormonal imbalance. They may want to "move on" but can't.