Benefits?

The Benefits of Infertility?

Obviously we would never wish infertility upon ourselves but if you are diagnosed with infertility issues of any kind, you can try make the most of your situation. It’s the very least you can do for yourselves and it will help you out in the long run.

Getting upset and frustrated will only add stress to your life and this is definitely a time when it’s very important to keep stress levels as low as possible.

(As I have said before, an extended definition of infertility is the inability to give birth to a baby, so when using the term infertility I am also referring to recurrent miscarriage.)

So, you’re probably asking…how the heck can I turn infertility into a positive thing. I ask myself that every single day! Easier said than done! I have to OFTEN remind myself that this is not plan B for my life - this is where I am supposed to be.
Oh yes, there are times I wish it was some nasty dream and I'll wake up and have my brood right next to me - but I have been given this 1 life and I have to live it to the full!
There are a few things a person can do to better yourself and your lifestyle. The opportunities are endless if you put your thinking cap on.

Change your life habits.

Going through infertility is a perfect time to change your life habits. Learn to treat yourself better. Just like anything, it will take a routine for it to truly become part of your lifestyle but now is the perfect time. When going through infertility, a healthy body and lifestyle is a huge factor. Eat better, exercise, reduce stress and sleeping habits are four very important pieces to fertility. Start here. See how changing your life habits can change your infertility. Not to mention, you will be healthier in general. There was a time where I thought why should I look after this body when it has failed me repeatedly? But then one day, my body just gave in, which affected my emotions as well. It is just better in the long run to look after yourself, eat right, exercise and pamper yourself!

Start your own fertility blog.

Blogging is a great way to write about your feelings, thoughts and comments on particular situations. Infertility is definitely a time that you will need to open up and blogging can help do this. Blogs are simple to set up and you need to know nothing about programming or coding. If you know how to type, you can blog. You never know…you might really enjoy blogging.

Grow closer to your better half.

Infertility can be a major stress on your life and your husband/wife’s life. This is a time when you can go two different ways. Further apart or closer together. Husband and wife have different ways of grieving for what could have been - perhaps there are feelings of guilt, feelings of failure and 'what if's' - "what if he had married someone else - he would be there dad he has always wanted to be!" There is nothing good that will come out of arguing about infertility or being upset that you are infertile. This will just drive you apart. Learn to talk about infertility and learn about infertility. Get as much knowledge as you can about infertility and or miscarriage. Do it together. The more you know…the better equipped you will be in dealing with infertility and the treatments you might have to go through.

Realize that life isn’t always perfect.

This particular point is so very true. Whoever has had a perfect life so far, please contact me and let me know how you did it. Things don’t always go our way. Some of us learn that the hard way! Infertility is one of those things that can creep up on us and hit us like a ton of bricks. Most people don’t assume they are infertile. It catches them off guard and is a major curve ball in life.


Use infertility as a major life experience.

There are some major life experiences we face. Some good. Some not so good. After going through recurrent miscarriages with Mike, as difficult, painful and sad as it has been - good can come out of it. I really think infertility / miscarriage is a great learning lesson. It helps you realize the miracle of pregnancy. It helps you realize all of the little pieces that have to happen before you can get pregnant. It keeps you humble. It can help change your life and lifestyle. You can become healthier because of infertility. You can become more educated because of infertility. It can grow your relationship. It can make you realize the important things in life that we often forget about. Infertility can be a positive major life experience.